The Pendulum Of Life

I was searching for a new topic to write today and then thought that why don’t I write something down on the title of my website today – The Pendulum Of Life – Where motivation begins.

So the main motto behind designing this website is to write about life; about the different aspects of life – success, failure, happiness, sadness, hopes, dreams and the list goes on like this.

Doesn’t it get easier to live if you start connecting things? Life is all about finding connections. Associating life with a pendulum is one of those beautiful connections. The larger the pull of the pendulum, the farther it will move. People with a science background learnt the concept of pendulum in physics and others remember it with the tick tock of the clock or the object moving freely back and forth. The best thing about the pendulum is that it swings equally in both the directions. So in life we have an equal share of joys and sorrows, profits and losses, success and failures, pull and push. Nobody has more or less, only the timings vary.

Life is like a pendulum. The two extremes of it keep us going. The sadness and happiness; the highs and lows; the sorrows and the laughter; the success and failure. We should not be unaware of the fact that it is in the true nature of the pendulum to swing back in the opposite direction definitely. Whether we want it or not but the two directions will be met. When we are facing the wrong extreme, all that we wish for is to face the other. But same does not hold true the other way round, still is bound to happen. There are pros and cons of both the sides and the truth is that either of the two extremes of the pendulum are in a way not acceptable. As we all know that excess of anything is not healthy. The perturbed nature of humans is unavoidable.

We find life somewhere in the middle of this pendulum. We want stability in life which we find somewhere in the middle. Can our lives remain stable? Has it ever happened with anyone? We all say that we want to settle in life. But does it ever happen? One after another, we have to cross the milestones creating and re-creating. One end of the pendulum dissolves in it the ecstasy of happiness while the other extreme takes us into the sorrow of losses.

I tell you about one instance from my life. When I was a child, I used to think that once I grow up, I will never be suffering again with the pain of waking up early in the morning, going to school, attend boring classes and working so hard day in and day out. I used to think that my parents life was rather easier. How they are living life on their own terms. They don’t have to study, don’t have to sit in the school bus at 6:30 in the morning. But I was never aware about the sacrifices that my parents made me, the struggle that they were doing. The many obstacles our parents cross, the many sacrifices that our parents make for us are uncountable and we will never be able to pay them back for all that they have done for us. As we grow in life, we are surrounded with a whole lot of responsibilities. There are many who take it well but there are those as well who are burdened by responsibilities. So it is how we take it. It is all the matter of responsibility towards our responsibilities. Struggles are the part and parcel of life and with growing years they will keep growing not lessening. It is foolishness to wait for a day when all our struggles will end. When there is comfort in life. Comfort is a myth and we are always in the want of more. So start developing in you a sense of actuality and live this life as per its true nature.

So the point of saying this is that the only years we are having a so called settled life is for the time we are on our mothers lap. After we stand on our own feet the struggle begins. When the baby is lying down he wants to crawl when he learns to crawl he wants to stand, when he stands he wants to walk, then run then jump and so on. The playgroup starts, then school, college, job, marriage, children, marriage of children and do you think that the struggle still ends for the being? No. Not at all. It still goes on. There are incomplete desires, unfulfilled promises and broken dreams. Nobody is satisfied. And nobody ever will be. One after the other we keep challenging ourselves. And that is what is needed. Challenging our own selves everyday is what keeps us going. It is not that hard to tackle this life. It is only as hard as we think it to be.

How would life be if it was all settled? Settling somewhere suggests almost no motion at all. So do you want that in life? Do you think that a clock can change its time if the pendulum doesn’t move to its two extremes? Not possible.

Don’t be overwhelmed by your success or depressed by your failure. It is up to you how far you take the swing of the pendulum of life. You are the creator, the author, the poet, the director and the actor of your life. Make the best movie and be the best seller of your book of life. It is after the darkest hour of the night, that the day arises.

All we need is to be aware of the consequences of both the extremes. Start reminding yourself that this is ‘life’ and this is how it is supposed to be. As a human we are intelligent enough to know what brought agony to us earlier and we subconsciously tend to be little reluctant towards that side. So all we need is to be a little more conscious.

To keep the spice in life there are always the equal opposites and we need to find our balance between both the ends juggling between the two extremes. Nothing is perfectly perfect but idealism lies in the way how you find your balance between the two sides of the pendulum of life.